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The first edition of Radical Honesty became a nationwide best seller in because it was not a kinder, gentler self-help book. It was a shocker! In it, Dr. Brad Blanton, a psychotherapist and expert on stress management, explored the myths, superstitions and lies by which we all live. And this newly revised edition is even worse! Blanton shows us how stress comes not fr The first edition of Radical Honesty became a nationwide best seller in because it was not a kinder, gentler self-help book.
Blanton shows us how stress comes not from the environment, but from the self-built jail of the mind. What keeps us in our self-built jails is lying. Blanton says. It kills us. The way out is to get good at telling the truth, and Dr. Blanton provides the tools we can use to escape from that jail of the mind. This book is the cake with the file in it. In Radical Honesty , Dr. Blanton coaches us on how to have lives that work, how to have relationships that are alive and passionate, and how to create intimacy where none exists.
As we have been taught by the philosophical and spiritual sources of our culture for thousands of years, from Plato to Nietzsche, from the Bible to Emerson, the truth shall set you free.
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Showing Average rating 3. Rating details. More filters. Sort order. Sep 22, Aaron rated it it was amazing. Great read, which actually presents the premises of Eastern thought in down to earth terms most people can understand, to wit: Most thought is a form of disease. For those who read into this a license to go around insulting people for fun, I think they've missed an important part of the point.
By stating the truth about your mostly childish feelings and demands on the world you get to hear yourself being putrid and you will come off your high horse.
If you just say the mean things yet keep secret Great read, which actually presents the premises of Eastern thought in down to earth terms most people can understand, to wit: Most thought is a form of disease.
If you just say the mean things yet keep secret the adolescent assumptions behind that feeling, you're only doing half the job, and being dishonest. There is no objective truth, only subjective truth. If you state the subjective truth of your feelings, including a hard look at your assumptions, it is not only honest but essential to growing up and being free. Wrong idea: "you're fat and disgusting! Hah ha! View 1 comment. This book is brash, confident, strong, results-oriented, opinionated, simple, and straightforward to the point of over-simplifying.
It also has New Age-y sub-themes that will put off some, but that's another matter. The book's basic point is sound -- honesty is the best policy. However, the implementation of that policy, as described in "Radical Honesty", is not very nuanced. It is a shock program most properly applied to people who are consciously or unconsciously living out self-destructive sc This book is brash, confident, strong, results-oriented, opinionated, simple, and straightforward to the point of over-simplifying.
It is a shock program most properly applied to people who are consciously or unconsciously living out self-destructive scripts that they internalized from somewhere or another, for people who are being deeply, fundamentally dishonest with themselves and with others. It is for people who could use a real shaking up, to break free from the false security and real stress of a false persona. That's fine as far as it goes.
However, if you were to apply the principles of radical honesty indiscriminately in your daily life, you would be a jerk, basically, and you wouldn't be able to get anything done in society. It's best considered for bringing health to broken intimate relationships among adults. On this point, a quote from Khalil Gibran comes to mind: "If indeed you must be candid, be candid beautifully.
It's for emergency use, like approaching the task of redecorating by burning your house down and starting over. That said, personally I found the author's brash style to be refreshing and likeable. As always, the reader should just extract the personally valuable stuff out of his collection of techniques and his overall message, and simply ignore the rest.
View 2 comments. Mar 01, elise rated it it was amazing Shelves: health , non-duality , meditation , oh-god-self-help , best-friend-books , mental-health , thesis. His premise is very scary: tell the truth as you experience it, no matter how it reflects on your identity. Use language to its natural limits to describe what you feel as you feel it, even if you fear it is childish or illogical.
I like this. I like the idea that our feelings often don't make any sense at all. We might feel them to be ugly, selfish, wicked.
There's a part where he outlines all the secrets he is ashamed of. It was one of my favourite parts, and I started laughing because of how f His premise is very scary: tell the truth as you experience it, no matter how it reflects on your identity. It was one of my favourite parts, and I started laughing because of how funny and truthful his admissions were. I imagine the first time he wrote them down on paper he might have been afraid, even though to me they were charmingly self-involved and innocent, like my own secrets.
I wrote mine down too, and it hurt to do so. Some of the things I came up with sounded hideous and twisted, like they'd been decaying in the dark for too long. Things I know to be true, but never consciously acknowledge.
I'll share one of them with you: I imagine myself as some kind of person who will eventually "get it". I will learn to be totally and radically honest, I will become a liberated sexual being, I will read lots of books and become very intelligent, I will travel the world and learn new things and tell people they are perfect.
I will perfect one day if I do all of these things, and no bad feelings will ever be able to touch me again. I believe that even in telling this to myself I am becoming more of a liberated being, someone special.
I never want to miss people or feel like I need others, so this is how I am trying to escape those feelings of needing to be validated externally. The act of writing these down as he had brought up much fear and self-hatred. It may feel like one is dying to admit that some of who you are is performative. It is a way of navigating the world because you think it will keep you safe.
It goes back very far. From a young age we learn that love, in some families, is a limited commodity. There is a right and a wrong way of being. If one can appear to be following the rules, you can access the benefits and resources you desire. It feels as though you are using people - it's not a good feeling. For Blanton, truth-telling is a means of humbling yourself. What is left behind is a simple sweetness.
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Here's the truth about why I'm writing this article:. I want to fulfill my contract with my boss. I want to avoid getting fired. I want all the attractive women I knew in high school and college to read it.
Radical Honesty 'Scares The Hell Out Of People,' But It Could Be Worth Trying
Would you like to tell us about a lower price? If you are a seller for this product, would you like to suggest updates through seller support? Brad Blanton. It kills us. For over 20 years, Radical Honesty has helped tens of thousands of people do exactly that. This is not a kinder, gentler self-help book. Blanton, a psychotherapist and expert on stress management, explores the myths, superstitions and lies by which we all live.
Radical Honesty : How to Transform Your Life by Telling the Truth
Better than advertised. A very interesting book about the nature of truth telling and how to go about this in a responsible empowering manner. Radical Honesty. Brad Blanton. At once shocking, entertaining, and profound-- Radical Honesty is revolutionary book that takes a fresh look at how we live, love, and attempt to heal ourselves in modern society. Radical Honesty is not a kinder, gentler self-help book. In it Dr.